We often grieve when friendships come to an end but should we? I have been thinking about this for a while now. This year has been the year of disillusionment. A good number of people, whom I thought of as friends are no longer in my life. It hurts. Some just grew apart or parted ways and I decided to bid adieu to others for various reasons. Either way it is a painful for me and I end up thinking a lot about these things. Maybe I invest more in friendship or maybe I am more emotional than I should be.
Nevertheless, the point is should we grieve at all? Should we feel bad at all? Should we continue to blame ourselves or the other person? Should we not stop thinking that if we had done this or if we had not done this, this might or might not happened? I feel people come in our lives to serve a purpose and they exit once that purpose is served. At that particular point of time, we needed to learn a lesson through them and vice versa. This pattern has been repeating in my life over the last decade at least if not more. Once I no longer need them they exit for some or the other reason. And mostly the reason of exit or departure is downright flimsy. I am not sure whether this is true in other people's lives also but this is exceedingly true for me.
However, I will be honest, though I understand it I don't particularly like the way this thing functions. I do become fond of some friends and it is sad to see them vanish without a trace...it is also sad when misunderstandings come up for really no rhyme or reason. Also, I would like to mention that closure is important. People we have been close with do deserve closure even if we have to go through some pain because of that.
Aur kya bolon...I think often that there has to be something wrong with me to keep losing friends but then I am a scorpio, the most misunderstood sun sign...
Nevertheless, the point is should we grieve at all? Should we feel bad at all? Should we continue to blame ourselves or the other person? Should we not stop thinking that if we had done this or if we had not done this, this might or might not happened? I feel people come in our lives to serve a purpose and they exit once that purpose is served. At that particular point of time, we needed to learn a lesson through them and vice versa. This pattern has been repeating in my life over the last decade at least if not more. Once I no longer need them they exit for some or the other reason. And mostly the reason of exit or departure is downright flimsy. I am not sure whether this is true in other people's lives also but this is exceedingly true for me.
However, I will be honest, though I understand it I don't particularly like the way this thing functions. I do become fond of some friends and it is sad to see them vanish without a trace...it is also sad when misunderstandings come up for really no rhyme or reason. Also, I would like to mention that closure is important. People we have been close with do deserve closure even if we have to go through some pain because of that.
Aur kya bolon...I think often that there has to be something wrong with me to keep losing friends but then I am a scorpio, the most misunderstood sun sign...
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