I might not write at all during most of the year on this blog but come December and I feel an unbearable urge to pen the travails and tribulations of the year gone by. And this year is no different. So, here I am at the fag end of the year to write about the good, bad and yes, ugly of the year gone by.
It was a landmark year for me in many ways. A year of rising from the ashes, a year of transformation, a year of letting go but most of all it was a year of holding on and fighting with grit which even I didn't know I had. I can easily say that the transformation is so deep and complete that I am essentially not the same person at all. Thanks to tough times which started for me a little before demonetization last year, I am now a much better and a stronger person.
The change is visible in the way I make decisions now. Some events earlier this year ensured that now I have made a habit of putting myself at the center of any decision I take. Inherently, women (at least Indian women) are brought up to think and care about the entire world (kids, husband, family, log and maybe even neighbor's family as well!) and never about themselves and I guess I was no different. No longer. Maybe it is a mid-life crisis but I just do what I feel like doing now without bothering about what the entire world is going to think. The change is palpable and my family and sister have noticed it and they are mostly okay with it...well, mostly ;)
Professionally, it was a wonderful year. I did a number of things for the first time. I took on much more, collaborated much more, outsourced a part of work and overall increased my productivity and number of clients.
I have come to realize that God essentially prepares you for what lies ahead. A number of events in 2016 literally trained me for 2017. For some reason, an acquaintance decided to train me on a totally different genre of writing in 2016, which equipped me to do extensive work this year. This person would conduct exhaustive sessions after work hours. So many times I wondered and asked why? There is no logical explanation...especially when you consider that the training was so tough that I actually tried walking away from the entire initiative a number of times. I can join the dots now in December 2017 and am almost certain that this person was a godsend to prepare me so I was able to take on more work this year.
Reluctantly, I let go of some people who were no longer a positive influence in my life. It was tough but finally, there really was no option but to execute the inevitable. My tendency is to try to hold on but possibly for the first time in my life, I went against this and decided that the effort was just not worth it. I also realized that I was just postponing the inevitable... I have finally accepted that people will come and go and you just have to always ensure that you are surrounded by positive people who uplift you and not pull you down.
In the same vein, some people play such an important part in your life and then suddenly vanish. Unfortunately, this does happen quite a bit with me. Maybe there is something inherently wrong with me but ab aisa hi hai... I would like to acknowledge their contribution to my growth and would like to thank them. It is just the saddest thing that sometimes they vanish before you can say `thank you'....
In the end, a transformation is almost always accompanied by chaos, commotion, pain, and turmoil. So I cried much more than I laughed; I stared at death, suffered agony, grief, and despair before picking myself up. To say that it was a tough year is an understatement. But then a phoenix always rises from the ashes...
It was a landmark year for me in many ways. A year of rising from the ashes, a year of transformation, a year of letting go but most of all it was a year of holding on and fighting with grit which even I didn't know I had. I can easily say that the transformation is so deep and complete that I am essentially not the same person at all. Thanks to tough times which started for me a little before demonetization last year, I am now a much better and a stronger person.
The change is visible in the way I make decisions now. Some events earlier this year ensured that now I have made a habit of putting myself at the center of any decision I take. Inherently, women (at least Indian women) are brought up to think and care about the entire world (kids, husband, family, log and maybe even neighbor's family as well!) and never about themselves and I guess I was no different. No longer. Maybe it is a mid-life crisis but I just do what I feel like doing now without bothering about what the entire world is going to think. The change is palpable and my family and sister have noticed it and they are mostly okay with it...well, mostly ;)
Professionally, it was a wonderful year. I did a number of things for the first time. I took on much more, collaborated much more, outsourced a part of work and overall increased my productivity and number of clients.
I have come to realize that God essentially prepares you for what lies ahead. A number of events in 2016 literally trained me for 2017. For some reason, an acquaintance decided to train me on a totally different genre of writing in 2016, which equipped me to do extensive work this year. This person would conduct exhaustive sessions after work hours. So many times I wondered and asked why? There is no logical explanation...especially when you consider that the training was so tough that I actually tried walking away from the entire initiative a number of times. I can join the dots now in December 2017 and am almost certain that this person was a godsend to prepare me so I was able to take on more work this year.
Reluctantly, I let go of some people who were no longer a positive influence in my life. It was tough but finally, there really was no option but to execute the inevitable. My tendency is to try to hold on but possibly for the first time in my life, I went against this and decided that the effort was just not worth it. I also realized that I was just postponing the inevitable... I have finally accepted that people will come and go and you just have to always ensure that you are surrounded by positive people who uplift you and not pull you down.
In the same vein, some people play such an important part in your life and then suddenly vanish. Unfortunately, this does happen quite a bit with me. Maybe there is something inherently wrong with me but ab aisa hi hai... I would like to acknowledge their contribution to my growth and would like to thank them. It is just the saddest thing that sometimes they vanish before you can say `thank you'....
In the end, a transformation is almost always accompanied by chaos, commotion, pain, and turmoil. So I cried much more than I laughed; I stared at death, suffered agony, grief, and despair before picking myself up. To say that it was a tough year is an understatement. But then a phoenix always rises from the ashes...
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