Possibly the hardest thing as a parent is to accept your child's choices, especially when you know that they are making a mistake. Your life experiences tell you that he/she is making a mistake but there is precious little you can do about it if the person is hell bent on learning things the hard way. I am slowly but surely realising this.
No, these are not our hands...:D
I have realised that beyond basic explaining and putting the entire picture in front of the child, there is little I can do. I was under the impression that I had developed a good amount of patience over the last few years as a parent but I was so wrong. I don't think I am prepared for what lies ahead...not sure if I ever would be. As a mother I feel I have to warn my kid to not do something but the more I warn, the more stubborn/adamant the kid becomes. I find it very difficult to like myself if I don't at least tell the daughter of what lies ahead. But I also have to say that the daughter is very much like I was about 26 years ago. Argues just like I did, which means sometimes it is just for the heck of it. Part of growing up but why does she has to make the mistakes which can be easily avoidable. Sigh!! the Eternal dilemma...
All in all, an impossible but a normal situation. She is trying to be independent and I am learning to let go...
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