Over the last two-three years I have observed a trend. I am just not bothered about social etiquettes. It almost sounds anti social but thats the way it has been. So while earlier it was like we should visit so and so because we haven't visited them for six months, now it is more like lets visit them because we love interacting with them.
People from the traditional school of thought would scoff at this approach but it works perfectly for us. Earlier we would end up wasting a lot of our us-time just trying to keep up with the social commitments but no longer. If don't feel like it we won't travel for half a day to a particular person's place to give Diwali gift. This in spite of the fact that that person has been coming at our place for two consecutive years now. There are innumberable such examples.
Obviously there are exception to this. If my parents just about hint that we have to be present at some wedding or function, I would bend myself backwards to be there. I do it because it matters to them and not because I should.
This goes back to the time when I was going through a particularly bad phase in life. These things just didn't matter. People who matter are not bothered if you give them a Diwali gift or if you visit them at regular intervals. And I don't see why I have to take trouble for people who don't matter anyway.The bond which binds such relationship goes deeper and social etiquettes don't play any major role.
During this crisis I also stopped talking to a few so called `friends' because they didn't stand by me. I didn't see any reason why I should be even civil to such creeps. I don't trouble them in any way but I ensure that these creatures are not even vaguely part of my life. So if somebody comes to me and says `hi' and I don't want to talk to them I can and do look through that person. Sometimes they think I haven't recognised them so they would try three-four times but mostly I have recognised them. I know, I can be really `mean'. Even my parents haven't been able to convince me in this regard. They feel I should let it go but somethings just don't go.
People from the traditional school of thought would scoff at this approach but it works perfectly for us. Earlier we would end up wasting a lot of our us-time just trying to keep up with the social commitments but no longer. If don't feel like it we won't travel for half a day to a particular person's place to give Diwali gift. This in spite of the fact that that person has been coming at our place for two consecutive years now. There are innumberable such examples.
Obviously there are exception to this. If my parents just about hint that we have to be present at some wedding or function, I would bend myself backwards to be there. I do it because it matters to them and not because I should.
This goes back to the time when I was going through a particularly bad phase in life. These things just didn't matter. People who matter are not bothered if you give them a Diwali gift or if you visit them at regular intervals. And I don't see why I have to take trouble for people who don't matter anyway.The bond which binds such relationship goes deeper and social etiquettes don't play any major role.
During this crisis I also stopped talking to a few so called `friends' because they didn't stand by me. I didn't see any reason why I should be even civil to such creeps. I don't trouble them in any way but I ensure that these creatures are not even vaguely part of my life. So if somebody comes to me and says `hi' and I don't want to talk to them I can and do look through that person. Sometimes they think I haven't recognised them so they would try three-four times but mostly I have recognised them. I know, I can be really `mean'. Even my parents haven't been able to convince me in this regard. They feel I should let it go but somethings just don't go.
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